Stop Chasing Your Passion

“Chase your passions.” We’ve all heard that advice a million times. It’s usually uttered alongside directives to “chase your dreams” and “find what makes you tick,” and usually finished with the phrase, “and then you’ll never have to work a day in your life.” The exhausting attempt to “find my passion” transfixed me for years.…

Defined by Failure

You have probably heard the name Vincent Van Gogh. You’d certainly recognize some of his paintings. He’s now almost universally lauded as one of the most famous, influential and compelling figures in western art history. But during nearly his entire adult life, he was known as an abject failure by almost everyone who knew him,…

How to maximize your financial aid

If I had a high school senior who was planning to enter college in the Fall of 2021, here’s what I’d tell them to do right now to maximize their financial aid. 1. Fill out the FAFSA. Starting October 1, families can begin to fill out the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (the “FAFSA”)…

College students: go find a job you don’t like

If you find a job you love, you’ll never have to work a day in your life. Or so the saying goes. If you truly enjoy the work you’re doing, it won’t feel like work. It might feel like discovery, play, or an interesting puzzle, but certainly not work. The problem for most college students,…

When your friend says he’s lost his faith

How do you encourage someone who says he’s lost his faith?  What if your friend says she just doesn’t believe anymore, as much as she’s tried? I’ve often wondered how it is possible to tell someone to “believe” or “have more faith” when that is precisely the thing they are struggling with.  The traditional approach…

Pears After Practice

The rain fell faintly, yet deliberately–afraid to make its presence known, but nevertheless determined to reach its destination.  The soccer pitch around them sagged under the collective weight of these dogged minions, resigning itself to the fact that hibernation under several feet of snow was sure to soon relieve it of its decorative function.  Though…

The Matt Dearden Show: Carsyn Koch

In this episode, I had the privilege of interviewing Carsyn Koch.  Carsyn is one of the premier middle distance runners in the entire country.  She went from growing up in a tiny town in Maine to competing in the Olympic trials in a mere two years. The story of Carsyn’s meteoric rise is a fascinating…

Bob Evans: A Defense (of no pretense)

It was early evening on a Sunday, and I wanted some bacon and eggs.  Over easy eggs and non-crispy bacon to be precise.  I mulled the idea of tackling such a meal in my own kitchen, but decided against it after quickly reviewing the preparation it would entail. Succumbing to abject sloth, I decided that my…